How do I prepare for a divorce

How do I prepare for a divorce? A Comprehensive Guide to Preparing for Divorce

The decision to end a marriage is one of the most significant life events a person can experience, involving a complex interplay of emotional, financial, and legal challenges. The legal landscape for divorce has evolved significantly, particularly following the 2019 referendum which reduced the required living-apart period. Preparing thoroughly before initiating proceedings is essential to protect your interests and ensure the well-being of your family.

 

Understanding the Legal Threshold

To obtain a decree of divorce in the Irish Circuit or High Court, specific constitutional and statutory requirements must be met under the Family Law (Divorce) Act 1996 and the Family Law Act 2019. Primarily, spouses must have lived “separate and apart” for at least two out of the previous three years. It is a common misconception that this requires living in different residences; the courts recognize that a couple can live “separate and apart” under the same roof if the matrimonial bond has ceased to exist. Additionally, the court must be satisfied that there is no reasonable prospect of reconciliation and that “proper provision” has been made for both spouses and any dependent children.

 

Financial Transparency and the “Family Pot”

One of the most critical steps in preparation is gathering comprehensive financial intelligence. In Irish law, the court seeks to ensure equity through the division of marital assets, often referred to as the “family pot.” This process requires the filing of an “Affidavit of Means,” a sworn document detailing all assets, liabilities, income, and expenditures.

To prepare, you should compile:

  • Property Valuations: Current market values for the family home and any secondary properties.
  • Pension Information: Pensions are often the most valuable asset after the family home. You will need a “Valuation of Pension Rights” for any occupational or private schemes.
  • Bank Statements: At least twelve months of statements for all accounts, including those held in sole names.
  • Business Interests: If either spouse is self-employed or a business owner, forensic accounting may be required to determine the true value of the enterprise.

 

Prioritizing the Best Interests of Children

In any Irish divorce proceeding, the welfare of the children is the “paramount consideration.” Preparation involves drafting a “Statement of Arrangements,” which outlines proposed living situations, education, and contact schedules. While many children remain primarily with one parent, there is no automatic legal presumption favouring the mother; the court decides based on the specific needs and stability of the children. Mediation is highly recommended for resolving custody and access disputes outside the adversarial courtroom environment.

 

The Role of Alternative Dispute Resolution

Before rushing to a contested court hearing, consider “Collaborative Law” or mediation. In a collaborative process, both parties and their solicitors sign a contract pledging to reach a settlement without going to court. This can significantly reduce acrimony and legal costs. However, if there is an imbalance of power, domestic abuse, or a lack of financial transparency, a traditional court-led process may be necessary to protect the more vulnerable party.

 

Practical Steps for Readiness

  1. Consult a Specialist: Family law is a nuanced field. Engaging a solicitor who specializes in Irish divorce law ensures that complex issues like Pension Adjustment Orders (PAOs) are handled correctly.
  2. Secure Your Privacy: Change passwords on personal email accounts and social media to ensure confidential communication with your legal team remains private.
  3. Assess Mortgage Capacity: Speak with a financial advisor or mortgage broker to determine if you have the borrowing capacity to “buy out” your spouse’s interest in the family home.
  4. Emotional Support: The process is psychologically draining. Building a support network of friends, family, or professional counsellors is as vital as legal preparation.

 

Sherwin O’Riordan Solicitors, we emphasize a holistic approach, aiming for amicable settlements while providing robust representation when litigation is unavoidable. Proper preparation today facilitates a clearer path to your future tomorrow.

 

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